you& #39;ve got parents who& #39;ll be borderline psychopaths to their kids then those kids will become adults who actively avoid going home.

Now you have those parents playing another psychopathic card: accusing the kids of being ungrateful.

Not a shred of self-reflection at any point.

Emotional blackmail left and right. Accusing your kids of not caring about you, but when you had the opportunity to create a relationship with that kid, all you did was abuse them.

Now they& #39;re on the lam, essentially.

Obviously I don& #39;t know anything about being a parent, but surely there& #39;s a reality where a parent realizes that their distant child is a direct outcome of their parenting style and then they work towards fixing it *today*

By apologizing, for starters.

Or at least acknowledging that they did a banged-up job of it and expressing a desire to try to be better now.

Sweeping it under the carpet will mostly never work.

The North (that is, your kid) remembers. And they& #39;re legging it in the other direction.

What do you get when you mix a culture of vicious, abusive parents and the idea that you should never question/interrogate their parenting?

Quiet, polite adult children who& #39;ll do anything to minimize the amount of time they spend in the same location as their parents.