It is forever wild to me that people who aren& #39;t fat (and have never been fat) will argue with fat people about what is or isn& #39;t anti-fat behavior.

It& #39;s very human to want to defend our good intentions, but often those "good intentions" are rooted in bias or thoughtlessness.

When a fat person points out that they& #39;ve been hurt by a thin person& #39;s bias/thoughtlessness, it& #39;s bizarre to argue that they weren& #39;t actually hurt.

Comments that state or imply that fat people aren& #39;t or shouldn& #39;t be hurt:

- "It was just a joke, lighten up."
- "That& #39;s not fat shaming."
- "That& #39;s not anti fat, it& #39;s pro health."
- "You& #39;re so sensitive."
- "Stop making everything about you."

Fat people don& #39;t have a hair trigger about anti-fatness--we have years of experience learning to detect and deflect it, often out of necessity to access basic health care, keep our jobs, etc. That& #39;s real world experience that people who haven& #39;t been fat simply don& #39;t have.

Of course it feels like garbage to hurt someone else. We don& #39;t want to believe we can hurt other people. But we do. When we do, it& #39;s on us to apologize, make amends & move on. Too often, people who aren& #39;t fat argue that fat people aren& #39;t allowed to be hurt. It& #39;s deeply shitty.