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Alex& #39;s story has so much hope
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Alex& #39;s story has so much hope
I started dating my partner at 18 too. We& #39;ll be six years together this summer. So this is a story about how amazing he is, & how trans people have all kinds of love stories-- finding love as themselves or keeping love & becoming themselves--
When I met him I was clawing my way out of a strict church, so I only wore skirts & dresses, didn& #39;t wear makeup. I was a sophomore in college at the time but didn& #39;t/couldn& #39;t party or drink or even really hang out with friends much.
But he saw through whatever the hell I had going on, to the angsty bastard within https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🖤" title="Schwarzes Herz" aria-label="Emoji: Schwarzes Herz">
After being in the church for so long I was pretty good at gauging whether I was being looked at as a girl/woman first, or as a person first
After being in the church for so long I was pretty good at gauging whether I was being looked at as a girl/woman first, or as a person first
(Sorry, I have no tips on figuring that out, just vibes and experience.)
And I was right. He& #39;s cis and straight. But he is, & always has been, more in love with ME than with my gender.
And I was right. He& #39;s cis and straight. But he is, & always has been, more in love with ME than with my gender.
He supported me while I scrambled for more self-determination, while I went through a lot of mental health rollarcoasters. There weren& #39;t trans specific crises in the first few years due to all the OTHER crises. By the time I realized I need to start thinking abt gender
I was way less scared of talking to him about it than I thought I would be. I was very nervous! But I wasn& #39;t scared. And I had the kind of adolescence where you& #39;re scared to tell anyone anything, where all your friends are ready to drop you on a dime
which I offer as context, because: I wasn& #39;t scared to tell my straight partner that I might not actually be a girl, and that I wanted top surgery, and that I had no idea what was up after that.
Like, can you imagine?? I couldn& #39;t at 18. But we& #39;re here. I& #39;m getting top surgery this summer, then scheduling a salpingectomy, and waffling about hormones. I still use my old name & pronouns for the most part, so maybe that at least makes this feel more gradual...
...but we& #39;ve discussed name changes and whatnot. And that, honestly, I still have no idea what the fuck the future holds. And he& #39;s never asked me to reassure him about the end goal, never laid out ANY conditions about what steps I shouldn& #39;t take
& with all that up in the air, all paths open, we& #39;re talking about buying houses in a year or two, we& #39;re planning our lives together.
I& #39;m glad no one tried to tell me that coming out was inevitably losing love.
I& #39;m glad no one tried to tell me that coming out was inevitably losing love.
I know that I& #39;ve gotten SO lucky! But all of the trans love stories I& #39;ve read on this thread are beautiful. & that& #39;s key, right? wherever you, wherever any trans person finds themselves right now, there are open paths & positive stories. You are lovable.
twitter broke like 10 times in the process of tweeting this thread lol
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