i need to say, very gently: spending years reading and internalizing the framing of sexuality presented by this kind of acecourse really messed with my head as a lesbian. no single ace headcanon threatens me, but i would push back on the idea that there& #39;s no potential for damage https://twitter.com/xieliansbuns/status/1331653968095817728">https://twitter.com/xieliansb...

there& #39;s no one true theory of sex and desire that fits every queer identity. i feel definitive friction between my needs and the needs of the ace spectrum in this arena.

it& #39;s okay if this isn& #39;t a resolvable issue. needs can be in conflict without one party being the bad guy. however, i& #39;ve built up some resentment over time hearing repeatedly that the framework as presented in this thread is completely benign and to say otherwise is to be aphobic