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Had a big realization with the help of my therapist on Friday. Asian family& #39;s tend to hold their children to high standards in life like prioritizing what the future will look like in terms of financial stability.
TLDR; they often project guilt and anxiety as standards (1/ 6)
TLDR; they often project guilt and anxiety as standards (1/ 6)
I won& #39;t go too in depth here since there& #39;s a lot to unpack with why that& #39;s such a value, but tldr; diasporic and generational trauma from living in places with economic instability or uncertainty. (2/6)
Anywho, I was thinking about some of the stereotypical pressures that a first born eldest son has in a family. For me, it& #39;s making sure I buy a house and take care of my younger siblings, parent, and grandparents. And it& #39;s fucking scary. (3/6)
I think a lot about what that means for my future. And I feel guilty when I make decisions for myself. I& #39;ve always had struggles justifying spending on things for me if they are non-essential. And it wasn& #39;t until my therapist asked me to sit on a specific possibility. (4/6)
That maybe, the struggles of immigration and survival in a new country has led to family member& #39;s feeling some sense of failure or guilt around generational wealth. And that these standards imposed on me are their guilt and vicarious living projected on me. (5/6)
