CW: abortion

kinda bothered by some thread i just saw about that old /r/relationships story where a guy made a lady bring an accidentally conceived kid to term, under an agreement she& #39;d have no part in raising it, and even paid above required child support to him, and he& #39;s mad

he was mad because he just assumed "instincts would kick in" and she& #39;d take care of the kid (ridiculous misogynist pseudoscience, basically)

that& #39;s bad enough, but it just bugs me that like... the lion& #39;s share of replies were "he got what he deserved!" or "all men suck"

like.. my first thought was how the kid& #39;s life is most likely going to be awful because of this jackass father, and i don& #39;t feel like it& #39;s too hard to think of that first?? i wasn& #39;t the only one to think that thankfully, but most everyone else just seemed focused on schadenfreude

and even beyond schadenfreude, "all men suck" is just a really toxic and excluding point of view

i just like... i don& #39;t feel like i should be in the minority for thinking about who needs to be protected first, before vengeance? it& #39;s troubling me that it seems less thought of