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I don& #39;t like to bring up past times I was wrong and in need of explaining, because I don& #39;t want to re-hurt anyone, but I feel like this one is important:
I didn& #39;t used to understand how someone could be nonbinary AND a man/woman, and I& #39;m sorry I was a "No?? Does not compute??" butthead about it for a few weeks there.
I was confused and wrong, and while I did eventually shut up and listen, it took me longer than it should& #39;ve.
I was confused and wrong, and while I did eventually shut up and listen, it took me longer than it should& #39;ve.
I mention this now because it seems like that dialogue is going around again, and you can absolutely be a nonbinary woman or a nonbinary man or a nonbinary anything, really.
The identity words that most make sense to YOU are valid.
The identity words that most make sense to YOU are valid.
I do not see any value in policing the terms people use to describe their own identity: if a combination makes sense to you, then that& #39;s good and amazing and it doesn& #39;t need to "make sense" to a Majority Vote Of All The Queers to be valid, or whatever. Your identity is yours.
I know for me, I& #39;m autistic and I get hung up on word definitions because I get panicky if a word feels squishy. And I know I hurt some people when I was going "No?? Don& #39;t understand??" and it felt to them like I was saying "You& #39;re Not Valid" and I feel awful about that.
I& #39;ve learned from that experience that there are times and places to ask certain questions, and that just announcing "I don& #39;t understand [identity]!??" at the world can be very harmful to the people who have that identity! Questions aren& #39;t magically neutral and contextfree!
Anyway, I& #39;ve drifted a little from the topic but every nonbinary identity is valid and yes, you can be a nonbinary man or woman or girl or boy, and it& #39;s unfair to nonbinary folks to keep having to explain this again when it& #39;s pretty easy to research or take our word for it.
(And I say "our word" because, uh, I& #39;ve only just started to realize that I& #39;m probably a nonbinary boy because there& #39;s still some gender-squish in here I don& #39;t know how to name, and that& #39;s terrifying but also exciting and good.)
I& #39;m stop talking now and go back to fretting over the supreme court. 
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