Thread by @rumongray, OKAY! THE BIG THREAD OF BOUNDARIES!Before I start, know that I'm not [...]

OKAY! THE BIG THREAD OF BOUNDARIES!

Before I start, know that I& #39;m not angry at anyone, but part of why I& #39;m doing this is to inform people about stuff they& #39;re doing that could perhaps make me uncomfortable in their interactions with me.

So here we go!

BOUNDARIES PART I: MY STREAM

This is one I didn& #39;t think I& #39;ve had to make, but I& #39;ve had a couple people be...let& #39;s say, weird, about like...wanting to be on my stream or wanting to, perhaps, control what I do on my stream.

This is different than, say, suggesting things to help make my stream better, such as what programs to use, how to use them, or like when my friend sent me the proper files I needed for some randomizers. This is helpful and welcome! And I thank you guys for that! :D

But what I& #39;ve had recently would be like...starting my stream, and then a friend starting a discord call with me after I told them I was starting a stream.

Or another who, when I started LTTP Randomized, was like "Hey I wanna be on your stream so that we can RACE."

No.

Please respect that my stream is what I want it to be. I& #39;ll stream when I want to stream, and I& #39;ll play what I want to play, and I& #39;ll have people on that I want to have on at that time.

I& #39;m not going to change my stream plan on a dime. Please respect that.

BOUNDARIES PART II: HOME, WORK, AND TELEGRAM/DISCORD

I...shouldn& #39;t even have to make this part of the thread but I& #39;ve had this happen a lot recently.

I am currently working 40 hours a week. No, I& #39;m not quite used to being back at this capacity yet. (I am thankful however).

To put it shortly, I work in customer service, basically. When I& #39;m at work, I& #39;m not supposed to have my phone out. This doesn& #39;t mean I follow that rule all the time, but I often don& #39;t have the time to reply. I usually have time to check a message or two and put the phone away.

I get one 30-minute break and two 10-minute breaks over 8 hours.

So please. DON& #39;T be that guy who& #39;s like "Why don& #39;t you respond?" DON& #39;T send me a bunch of pics and expect me to comment on all of them. DON& #39;T ask me a question and then get upset that I can& #39;t answer it right away.

Oh, and audio files? Please understand that I& #39;m not going to open those at work at -all-. If you want to talk to me, use text unless you know I& #39;m not at work, because you won& #39;t get my response for a long time otherwise.

I just think it& #39;s really unfair to me for someone to put me on the spot like that and expect my undivided attention at a time when my attention CANNOT BE UNDIVIDED FROM WORK.

And on my breaks? Sometimes I just like to check twitter and move on. I& #39;m allowed that!

NOTE: This doesn& #39;t mean "Don& #39;t ever talk to me."

It means that you have to be patient.

And yes, sometimes that means that I -forget- to respond. That& #39;s also going to happen. I& #39;m human. I& #39;m allowed to be human and make mistakes like that.

Please respect that.

BOUNDARIES PART III: SEXY TIME UWU~

(Will probably get into a bit of NSFW details, just as a heads up)

So...on Telegram, and on my AD twitter, I& #39;ve gotten to be more open about my sexuality, my desires, and all that. And I& #39;ve met some AWESOME people to help explore that.

But like many others, I& #39;ve also met people who are like...hah...how can I say it.

A little...overzealous while at the same time lacking basic conversation or relationship skills.

Lemme give you an example of something I got from one guy EVERY DAY for a month or so:

GUY: Hey

ME: Hey, how& #39;s it goin?

GUY: Horny

ME: Ah

GUY: Wanna help?

ME: Nah

GUY: WHY NOT?

ME: Not in the mood, sorry

GUY: Awwww

Repeat ad nauseam

Again, this wasn& #39;t someone I got to know over time, he poked me from a chat I barely talked in.

And YES, I HAVE done ERP in the past with people I do really like. I have others that I WANT to do ERP with in the future when schedules align. This is a fun activity for me, it helps me feel...wanted. Desirable.

But stuff like this example makes you come across as desperate.

That doesn& #39;t make me feel desirable. It makes me feel like I& #39;m being looked at as someone who can get worn down until I give in. In some ways, it makes me feel like a commodity rather than a person. That I& #39;m wanted for what I can DO FOR YOU rather than for who I AM.

And of course, when all the other person wants to talk about/do is about sex nonstop, and sex with me, it& #39;s just...off-putting. And I know that can be surprising because I can get really...flirty in chats!

But I still want there to be a -connection-. That doesn& #39;t always happen.

Part of me is sorry if I just don& #39;t...click with a person to the point of wanting to be sexually open with them? But keep in mind it& #39;s usually because

1) I barely know you

or

2) There& #39;s a red flag or two that makes me wary

And again I& #39;m human. I& #39;m going to have preferences, I& #39;m going to have my "favorites" when it comes to people.

It doesn& #39;t take much to get into that list, honestly! Just be like...a regular person. Talk to me, ENGAGE me. Don& #39;t just make it all about sex.

Oh, and also uh...

I make it pretty clear what my sexual preferences are in terms of like...positions and the like.

So trying to force an RP is a bad start already, but trying to force an RP where I& #39;m not in a position I like?

Dude. Seriously? Please try a little.

Oh, and if you have kinks that you know others might not like?

PLEASE just...ask me up front.

Don& #39;t try to slip them in.

AND! If I tell you that they make me uncomfortable?

DON& #39;T TRY AGAIN IN A FEW MONTHS.

I& #39;m no kinkshamer, but I don& #39;t like being uncomfortable either.

I think that about wraps up this thread about boundaries. I& #39;m kinda sorry that I have to make it, but at the same time, I feel like I& #39;ve been pretty good at being up front about other stuff, that I should do this.

Please respect my boundaries, and we can be friends! :D

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