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bpd is important and does not make you a bad person, a thread mainly with its purpose to educate.
to begin with, please correct me if i happen to make mistakes, i& #39;m talking from the perspective of someone with bpd who has studied months to understand what& #39;s going on, not a therapist or psychiatrist.
what is bpd you may ask? bpd: borderline personality disorder (not bipolar disorder as it& #39;s mostly mistaken for) is medically a disorder that causes you to be vulnerable and impulsive when it comes to emotions. it causes unwelcomed thoughts, distress and emotional pain.
it is hardly stigmatised and being looked down onto for the impulsive behaviour and many other factors. not only you get to live with emotional pain but you also get to be kicked by society. that& #39;s why people with bpd try their best to spread awareness.
now, i want people to be aware all the things that happen under the influence of destructive thoughts never build up our personality. we are kind people too, we have talents, we can smile and make people feel loved just as much.
one& #39;s struggle does not make them the person they are today. days may be tough for us, every touch feels as if it& #39;s made on direct nerves through skin, as someone once said. but at the end of the day we are the most aware. so please do not think we& #39;re trying to ignore it.
we are scared of abandonment the most. because we are aware if living is hard by ourselves, it must be hard as well for friends to see all this. we know things are happening but it& #39;s just harder to control how it affects us.
but we always try to make up for everything happening. it might look weird for you but it& #39;s actually normal for us after an action, to try and make things better. we don& #39;t mean any bad.
bpd is not just impulsivity and sorrow. we are good people as well, we are artists, we do things we will be proud of one day and we still manage to smile despite going through chaos inside.
i try my best to daily make people aware of the importance of educating yourself, not because i need pity. i don& #39;t, but because i see people choose to forget we are humans too. none of us needs pity at the end of the day as our main purpose is to make people aware.
do not invalidate us. if it hurts, it& #39;s important. and our wounds aren& #39;t any less worthy of healing.
i did not mention many things about bpd that are hard to swallow because i don& #39;t intend to trigger other people struggling. i tried staying in a zone where i remind everyone we& #39;re still lovable. but in honest words, bpd is scary to live with. you don& #39;t know your next moves. +
and they don& #39;t take it seriously. that& #39;s the scariest part, that self destructive behaviour in bpd has been so normalized to the point few people take it seriously. it shouldn& #39;t. it& #39;s not a joke nor a made up thing. if you want to educate yourself more i have articles in my carrd
and destructive behaviour comes in indirectly or directly harming people around us as well. it does, and at the end of the day we don& #39;t expect to have anyone anymore due to it. and living becomes lonely and we& #39;re scared again.
if you have a loved one diagnosed with bpd or you think they have bpd, there are many healthy ways to support them without "touching" them when as I& #39;ve said, each touch has a huge impact. you can still love them. no matter their struggle. +
there& #39;s this huge stigma around it that we don& #39;t feel empathy when in fact it is proven we feel empathy for anyone and anything but ourselves as our self image is distorted. we love things hardly and that& #39;s what hurts us in the end. we provide so much love for this world but+
ourselves, and that& #39;s one of the things why emotions are hard to handle.
and i have a feeling people will come for my neck for not mentioning its aftermath and the & #39;bad& #39; aspects of it. of course it has bad aspects, it& #39;s a mental illness. it& #39;s not something to be taken lightly. but i am here to prove a point. that we are not bad human beings.
and as i& #39;ve mentioned before, we don& #39;t expect anyone to stay. so don& #39;t forget to also put yourself as a priority and don& #39;t overstep your boundaries. you matter as much as we do.
to end this thread, i hope it helps people see what& #39;s inside us. i& #39;m just one person and i cannot speak for the entire community but i tried as much as i could to generalize. the more we talk about it the more we destigmatize it, we make people aware there& #39;s healing for us too.+
and from experience, i educated myself on bpd so much on my path that now i know my triggers and how to manage emotions at least for a while. that& #39;s why educating people and yourself is important, it helps you and others understand things better and find healthy solutions.
