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I am a rape survivor, and I just had a trauma response to the video she& #39;s talking about.
A trauma response is not being bothered by something—it isn& #39;t even being really, really, bothered by something. It means that an hour ago, my brain and
A trauma response is not being bothered by something—it isn& #39;t even being really, really, bothered by something. It means that an hour ago, my brain and
nervous system did not know that I was safe in my living room. This can be seen with brain imaging. I saw the video and felt frozen and I started shaking. My resting HR is normally 55. It jumped to 117. I felt terrified. I use past tense, but I can still feel the effects, and
might still feel slightly off for the rest of the day.
Here& #39;s the thing—it& #39;s my job and responsibility to manage my trauma responses. The things that bother me are all intuitive. The things that actually trigger a trauma response? Honestly not intuitive, in my case. Very minute
Here& #39;s the thing—it& #39;s my job and responsibility to manage my trauma responses. The things that bother me are all intuitive. The things that actually trigger a trauma response? Honestly not intuitive, in my case. Very minute
details that no one would think would be triggering can do it. It& #39;s been smells before. I& #39;ve watched dozens of acted rape scenes on TV and only one triggered an actual trauma response. For some men and women, it may be more intuitive, of course.
I can understand why one would
I can understand why one would
not share a video of an actual rape. It is kind for them to think of people like me.
But at the end of the day, the world doesn& #39;t have the power or the responsibility to protect me from my trauma.
I think it& #39;s fair to say "I think it was insensitive to post or share such a
But at the end of the day, the world doesn& #39;t have the power or the responsibility to protect me from my trauma.
I think it& #39;s fair to say "I think it was insensitive to post or share such a
video."
I do not think it& #39;s fair to say that posting such a video is "an attack on women."
This step from "not being sensitive" to "attack" is not a healthy one. It& #39;s about controlling people, and I didn& #39;t survive my sexual assaults so that I can live in a fucked up world
I do not think it& #39;s fair to say that posting such a video is "an attack on women."
This step from "not being sensitive" to "attack" is not a healthy one. It& #39;s about controlling people, and I didn& #39;t survive my sexual assaults so that I can live in a fucked up world
where the semantics of the word "attack" expand to include whatever people want it to.
Words and media are not violence to the listener/viewer. My nervous system thinks they are, but my nervous system is WRONG. Recognizing this is actually a KEY PART OF RECOVERY.
No one is
Words and media are not violence to the listener/viewer. My nervous system thinks they are, but my nervous system is WRONG. Recognizing this is actually a KEY PART OF RECOVERY.
No one is
attacking me. I am in my living room. I am safe.
