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I’ve been this neighbor before and this is what I can tell you: 1. Do NOT call a delivery person. If she accepts the food and has no explanation for how it got there, it has potential to incite further violence. https://twitter.com/chescaleigh/status/1276858107134652416">https://twitter.com/chescalei...
2. If you have a SOLID idea of who the aggressor is, do wait until they are gone to knock. If no answer, slide your # under the door and knock again.
3. Since you introduced yourself already to the other person- say your name through the door is something else. Something simple like “Annie”- and tell her if she decides to text you, to start with “Hi Annie” so you KNOW it’s her.
4. It keeps YOU safe and in the event the aggressor sees the paper and texts you- you’ll know it’s not the victim when they don’t start with “Hi Annie”, further protecting you and the victim.
5. When I was in this situation, all I wanted to do was talk. Especially from a place of anonymity. It’s easier to talk when you’re not worried about being judged. Many crisis lines weren’t willing to just “talk” though. Hope this helps.
Tip: Make sure the abuser/aggressor is GONE gone before verbally sharing the “Hi Annie” instructions so they don’t overhear you. DO NOT write “Hi Annie” instructions down on the paper with your #. ONLY YOUR #.
Tip: Do not walk right back to YOUR apartment after doing this. Go out for a walk, wherever. It’s in your best interest the victim does not know where you stay unless you’re comfortable with that (but it’s risky).
