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So.. Still can’t bring myself to talk about certain things but I can say this. My male manager tapped me on the shoulder, 30mins into a work party I had organised & pulled my top over my head, exposing my bra to the rest of the all male team. The one female colleague, a “friend”
who witnessed it, and had persuaded me to join Esat from AOL, took me aside while I was crying and told me not to make a thing out of it “because the tech industry is so small in Ireland, you’d never get hired again”. That was 20 years ago. I’m very sorry nothing has changed.
I’d already experienced SA by that time and felt so humiliated. The manager was pulled from the team the following week after two guys on the department reported it. The dept head asked me if I wanted to take it further and I said no.
I had more trauma when I was assaulted and robbed at gun point in my parents pub so don’t take people surprising me very well. Someone patted me on the head at work in the last year and I reacted so strongly, he’ll never do it again
I’m <mostly> ok, but I do think my anxiety and depression comes from six or seven events in my life from ages 24 to 44. I really struggle to talk about two events in particular, one of which was weaponised against me by the person I mistook for someone else on a Twitter there
recently. I’m still mortified by that.
I don’t want to detract from the young women on here telling their stories, but it’s important to listen to and believe them, to present this toxicity spreading into the next, and the next, and the next generation
I don’t want to detract from the young women on here telling their stories, but it’s important to listen to and believe them, to present this toxicity spreading into the next, and the next, and the next generation
*prevent. My glasses are USELESS.
There’s an element of witnesses not wanting to “get involved” in Ireland. 7 (m) “friends” from PopCap witnessed my ex punch me in the face once. Last year I asked them to give an account of what they saw; only 2 replied, to say they couldn’t remember. Stop protecting abusers
I even feel bad talking about this - because I don’t want certain people to know about it, or give someone else something to weaponise against me - and I certainly don’t want to talk over women. But it’s in every industry, and will continue to be if we don’t speak out.
There’s much, MUCH more to my story, of course, as with SO many other people, but I’ve never felt able to tell. I should have posted a CW/TW at the start of the tweets, I guess? I don’t know what I’m doing - I’m sorry
