oh no the & #39;is she hot or is she just mean to you& #39; tweet is hitting critical mass on my timeline

some time ago a very smart friend told me that a person& #39;s quest for love can often be a search for the kind of pain that& #39;s most familiar

unfortunately my first serious relationship was extremely abusive and that set me up for most of the ones that came after it. that same sharp-edged personality that produced high highs, but low lows. that one that makes you feel like a million bucks, then worthless trash

it sucks looking back on a lifetime of poor partner choices realizing that i was drawn to personalities that did not give a fuck about me. i was a vehicle for them to feel better about themselves, and a punching bag, both literally and figuratively, when they didn& #39;t

but the good news is, once you can identify that, you can make better choices. you deserve kindness and consideration and boundaries and support. don& #39;t waste your time on people who don& #39;t care about your wellbeing and deprioritize you