So this bell hooks & #39;About Love& #39; is interesting in asserting a set definition of love.

But does anyone else feel like there& #39;s a danger in that definition of describing relationships that aren& #39;t perfect, as loveless?

To clarify, I& #39;m not talking about abusive relationships, but...

...relationships where two humans trying their best, with loving intentions for each other, but struggling with their own baggage, don& #39;t always get it right. And unintentionally end up hurting each other at times. Because no-one and no relationship is perfect?

Surely you could argue from hooks& #39; assertion that & #39;love is as love does& #39; means anything that doesn& #39;t lead to your partner& #39;s nurturting, even if wholly unintentional and the opposite of your aim (and broader patterns of engagement with your partner), is & #39;loveless& #39;?

Idk maybe I& #39;m overthinking lol