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the popularity of "fp/favorite person" as a term in the online bpd community is incredibly wickedly toxic and really fucking bad. i& #39;m speaking as someone who used it in the past.
the popularity of "fp/favorite person" as a term in the online bpd community is incredibly wickedly toxic and really fucking bad. i& #39;m speaking as someone who used it in the past.
idk how to explain it other than forcing someone into the position of the Only Thing Keeping Keeping Me Alive, especially if they weren& #39;t told and/or if they never gave consent to being referred to like that, is pretty fucking dangerous (and usually manipulative).
it& #39;s real that we end up being super attached to certain people, sometimes unhealthily. but it is NOT okay to force someone into that position with a title and everything. someone isn& #39;t a bad person for saying they aren& #39;t comfortable with being called a "favorite person"
it may have been useful/coined at first because it& #39;s a real phenomenon, but now i mainly just see the term used by other people who want to control or guilt trip the people they& #39;re attached to. and the emotions bpd gives us does not give us the right to do that
anyway do not elevate other people into the favorite person
https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="™️" title="Trade mark sign" aria-label="Emoji: Trade mark sign"> "perfect beings who can do no wrong" status. i promise you it will fuck with your brain as it did mine. you can be attached to people without assigning them the fp role, and you& #39;ll be better off in the long run coping
