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"We’ve become so wrapped up in our feminist pain that we’ve completely missed that men are hurting, too."
And that matters. https://demetranyx.com/i-wont-hate-men-the-way-you-want-me-to">https://demetranyx.com/i-wont-ha...
And that matters. https://demetranyx.com/i-wont-hate-men-the-way-you-want-me-to">https://demetranyx.com/i-wont-ha...
"I’m sick of hearing about how we somehow need to knock men down in order to thrive. " https://demetranyx.com/why-it-hurts-to-be-angry-toward-men/">https://demetranyx.com/why-it-hu...
I think loving cis people, straight people, cis straight men-
loving them *for being* those things-
for being who they are-
learning compassion for the ways those identities effect their lives-
in good and bad ways, just like all of our identities do-
is KEY to healing myself
loving them *for being* those things-
for being who they are-
learning compassion for the ways those identities effect their lives-
in good and bad ways, just like all of our identities do-
is KEY to healing myself
I feel shame about attraction to women partly because I subconsciously see it as toxic straight dude behavior to sexualize women, and I subconsciously believe that that& #39;s a bad thing.
IT ISN& #39;T.
IT ISN& #39;T.
I& #39;m not gonna fully accept my own sexual attractions until I accept sexual attractions as a whole.
Healing won& #39;t come through convincing myself I& #39;m "not like them."
Healing will come through believing all of our sexualities are sacred.
Healing won& #39;t come through convincing myself I& #39;m "not like them."
Healing will come through believing all of our sexualities are sacred.
A lot of us grew up being told our sexualities are wrong and bad and evil, and we tried to fix that by correcting it with, "no mine is good, someone else& #39;s is what is bad."
How about none of them are bad ???
How about none of them are bad ???
There is nothing wrong with being cis/het/male -- and that& #39;s actually a thing that needs said.
It& #39;s totally normalized & socially accepted in progressive queer circles to talk shit on cis/het/men, to demean, to be cruel, to say they are lesser, to ostracize
It& #39;s totally normalized & socially accepted in progressive queer circles to talk shit on cis/het/men, to demean, to be cruel, to say they are lesser, to ostracize
I get WHY this is a thing, it& #39;s a natural & understandable response to being oppressed. That doesn& #39;t make it healthy. That doesn& #39;t make it okay. That doesn& #39;t make it less harmful to anyone with those identities and it certainly doesn& #39;t make less destructive to ourselves.
Demeaning men doesn& #39;t help us be whole anymore than demeaning non-men helped men be whole.
Pushing someone else down is never the way to lift yourself up. Even if they did it first.
Pushing someone else down is never the way to lift yourself up. Even if they did it first.
true self love, self-acceptance, and freedom from shame don& #39;t come from distinguishing yourself from the people you hate, judge, and shame.
they come from learning not to hate, judge, or shame anyone.
how you view yourself reflects how you view other people.
they come from learning not to hate, judge, or shame anyone.
how you view yourself reflects how you view other people.
(this thread is not organized nor all about the same things so don& #39;t read too much into the implied connections, i& #39;m not thinking that clearly about it lol)
I realized a while ago that I held hatred towards women, especially cis women, because I blamed them for my gender trauma.
Letting go of that hate and blame did wonders for my gender healing.
Letting go of that hate and blame did wonders for my gender healing.
