I have successfully disengaged (I hope) from the person who wanted to roll up on me out of "concern."

Dating is treacherous. I& #39;m smarter about it now than I used to be, which basically boils down to looking for reasons to screen someone out, instead of in.

Unsolicited advice, pay attention to what someone finds funny. Sometimes it& #39;s harmless. Other times it reveals a pattern.

Humor was just one yellow flag in this case but I have an extreme example. I read an advice column letter aloud to the ex-hu. Married woman struggling w/fertility, preparing w/her husband for treatments found out he& #39;d had a vasectomy before they even met.

Knew she wanted bio-kids, married her anyway, let her suffer through thinking something was wrong with her, never said a word, he was eventually outed by her MIL. Shocking yes?

My own marriage was a gala held in honor of big waving red banners, but I didn& #39;t start to SEE them until my ex-hu laughed at that story.

I& #39;ll let you decide what kind of person that makes him.