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There will always be abusers like Ravi.
The solution is not to worry about preventing leaders from "falling" into abusive behaviours.
The solution is to create cultures where victims feel safe to disclose & don't have to fight the system, & dealing immediately w/ allegations.
The solution is not to worry about preventing leaders from "falling" into abusive behaviours.
The solution is to create cultures where victims feel safe to disclose & don't have to fight the system, & dealing immediately w/ allegations.
Any system or set of rules can be co-opted & used by an abuser as a shield for his abuse. Look at the way Ravi used the "Billy Graham rule." He manipulated that like he manipulated everything else. But if Lori Anne had been heard 4 years ago, none of that would have mattered.
This is what "believe women" means. Not that we summarily execute a man based on a rumour--but when a woman (or man) comes forward with their story, we assume they could be telling the truth and investigate accordingly with an eye to uncovering the truth.
If you say, "a non-abusive leader will belong to a good church" - - guess what? An abuser will take that on *precisely* because it's what you think they won't do. That's what they do. You can't spot them by external characteristics because that's their camouflage.
Exactly the dynamic I was speaking about: https://twitter.com/defendsurvivors/status/1360604512918986754?s=20
