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Now that I’ve shared my story, there’s a very important part I don’t want overlooked.
I contemplated sharing my story for over a year. I contemplated sharing my experience because I wasn’t sure if what I went through was bad enough. I spent months comparing my experience to stories of women who had been hospitalized or killed due to domestic violence.
I was so normalized to abusive behavior that I questioned the validity of my experience simply because I wasn’t in a hospital or buried in the ground.
If you are a survivor, you should never question the validity of your abuse based on what you were wearing, if you were under the influence, if you made someone mad, if you shouldn’t have brought up an issue, or anything. Someone’s inability to control themself is not your fault.
Abusers are going to use those things to justify their actions anyway, but it will never be your fault. IT WILL NEVER BE YOUR FAULT IF SOMEONE ELSE LACKS SELF CONTROL. Remember that.
I was always afraid of the judgement and embarrassment I’d feel after sharing my story, but since letting go of this weight I have been met with so much love and support. I’m so grateful for every person that has lifted me up and shown me the love I was missing for 3 years.
To any victims of sexual and relational abuse that haven’t come forward, I know it’s terrifying. I know it takes a lot of courage. Just know that when you’re ready to talk, your friends, family, and supporters will be ready to embrace you with an overwhelming amount of love 
